Abstract
This article presents a model that is useful for healing, learning, and growing from painful experiences, endings, and transitions in relationships. The learning and growing process applies whether the painful endings are the result of a game or natural life experiences and circumstances. The new awareness and learning from mistakes can then be applied to the new beginnings and to new hellos with the same person or in a new relationship. This nonblame good-bye/hello model encourages clients to become aware of their patterns of relating, to keep what is working, change what is not, and let go, grieve, and heal those losses that cannot be changed. Case examples illustrate uses of the model.