Abstract
Analyzes ten behavior patterns, e.g. failing to ask for what one wants, failure to share control, failure to share work, which have been found to consistently interfere with the effective development and with the survival of intimate relationships. The specific destructive patterns are considered in terms of script injunctions and early decisions, as well as in terms of the impact of these in augmenting relationship problems. Describes processes for the confrontation of the destructive behavior patterns, and their replacement with autonomous behavior patterns to enhance intimacy.