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Section2. Clinical Application

The Shame Loop: A Method for Working with Couples

Pages 141-148
Published online: 28 Dec 2017
 
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Various authors have written recently about shame (Clark, 1995; Erskine, 1994; Kaufman, 1989; McClendon & Kadis, 1994), usually with a focus on individual work. This article explores the psychology of shame and shame affect as it is felt and expressed in couple relationships. The author also examines defenses against shame and introduces the notion of a “shame loop” to describe the energy flow in a couple relationship. The underlying script decisions perpetuated by humiliation-shame transactions are examined with reference to the dynamics of couple relationships, and a way of working with the shame loop is presented. Although primarily designed for work with couples, this material can also be applied to the relationships between a therapist and client and between supervisor and supervisee.

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Ray Little

Ray Little, Dip. Co., is a Certified Transactional Analyst (clinical) who maintains a private psychotherapy practice in London, England, where he works with individuals and couples and runs groups. He is visiting tutor with the Dip. and M.Sc. in Human Sexuality at St. George's Hospital, London.
 

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