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Pages 69-74
Published online: 28 Dec 2017
 
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The author describes some guidelines for and benefits of caring confrontation. This process is particularly useful for people who fear being criticized or confronted and would rather avoid both because they remember such experiences with defeat and pain from childhood. The benefits include facilitating autonomous relationships, enhancing conflict and communication intimacy, replacing accusations with curiosity, developing skills for questioning authority effectively, reducing avoidant behaviors and script-related depression and/or anxiety, and helping people avoid embarrassment.

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Valerie Lankford

Valerie Lankford is a licensed counselor and a Teaching and Supervising Transactional Analyst (clinical) with a private practice in Baltimore, Maryland. She is director of A Comfort Zone Counseling Center, wrote Four Feelings and What to Do With Them, co-authored What Did I Learn from a Child Today? with Pearl Ratushewitz, and has written several articles. For two summers she has trained people in Ukraine with Steve Karakashian and Nadya Spassenko, director of the Ukrainian Institute. She sees individuals, couples, and groups on a regular basis and enjoys leading workshops.