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Section 1. Violence

“I'm Not Talking to You”: Shunning as a Form of Violence

Pages 125-131
Published online: 28 Dec 2017
 
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This article describes shunning as a form of psychological violence similar to teasing or excluding. Bowlby's (1973) work on shunning is integrated with structural ego-state theory using Erskine's (1994) work on shame and self-righteousness and Clark's (1995) concept of disavowal to describe the development of a shunning Child ego state. A five-stage process of clinical treatment is suggested to help clients reestablish “I'm OK, You're OK” relationships, and the wider social context of shunning behavior is briefly considered.

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Melanie Lewin

Melanie Lewin, B.A. (Hons), M.Litt. (Oxon), M.A. (Kent), M.A./CQSW (Kent), EATA Provisional Teaching and Supervising Transactional Analyst (clinical), runs a transactional analysis training, supervision, and psychotherapy practice in southeast England. She is also Training Development Worker for the Institute of Transactional Analysis.