Abstract
This article condenses theoretical material from an as yet untitled book-length manuscript. It explains the basis of redecision therapy and why redecisions are necessary. It identifies ten human behavior principles that specify: two inborn basic defenses underlying the necessary early decisions; requirements for growth; child-rearing rules that proscribe harmful injunctions; self-limiting early decisions; their invariable consequence (overconcern with self); resulting sexualization of bad feelings; sexual “love” as self-image maintenance; consequently flawed secret contracts in relationships; the passing along of the pathology to offspring; and a way out, by redeciding.